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Three Ways to Show Your Money Some Love
February 14, 2019
Valentine’s Day is a special day for showing love to loved ones. The price tag for tangible expressions of love will translate to a whopping $20.7 billion in 2019, according to the National Retail Federation.
If I were to have a conversation with the money you spent about your expressions of love, would your money scream abuse or shout praise? Would your money feel loved by you?
Don’t run from this touchy-feely conversation! If you do, you run the risk of your money running away from you. Your money wants to be loved—by YOU.
What is Love?
Love means different things to different people. I would suggest that love exudes appreciation, respect, and the deep sharing of time, space, and energy. It activates emotion, action, and reflection. Love is a powerful force.
Unchecked love can turn anyone and anything into an idol; it can wreak havoc in your life. Love in its best state reflects the best in you.
Showing money your love gives your money a chance to show some love to you in return. This reciprocal relationship opens doors for guilt-free giving and living.
Appreciation: Take a $20 bill out of your wallet or ATM. Gaze squarely at the bill and audibly tell the bill how much you appreciate it. Mean it when you say it. If you can’t say it or mean it, commit yourself to determining the cause of your mental block.
Respect: With that same $20 bill, declare that you will not misuse or abuse it—or its counterparts—by spending it on things or people who disrespect you. Warning: This may be a painful exercise to acknowledge all the ways that you have been mistreated by others, as well as ways that you have mistreated others and yourself.
Deep sharing of time, space, and energy: Don’t put the $20 bill away or spend it too fast. Think about the time, space, and energy you have spent with it and the rest of your money. Are you mentally present with your money? Do you allocate enough time to assess how it’s doing and understanding the reasons behinds its highs and lows? Do you allocate sufficient positive mental space and energy for reflection and engagement on a consistent basis?
I know what you’re thinking. Why can’t you buy a Valentine’s Day present for your money just as you did for your Valentine and get a one-day love credit that you hope lasts until the next Valentine’s Day? If this is your strategy, what are the odds that your money (and your Valentine) stays with you for another year? Is it worth the risk?
A better strategy might start with a genuine confession of your desire to be a better money partner and a firm commitment to self-work. Self-work may entail journaling your money thoughts and activities, working with a financial counselor or therapist, and hiring a certified financial planner.
By doing the work, you may have your money Valentine for life instead of just a one-day stand. Why not challenge yourself to make your money and your love last forever?